What if the reason you haven't found your passion is because your personality is wired to experience interest differently from what school, social media, and self‑help culture constantly glorify?

You can't find it because you lack an accurate mirror.

Well.. You've found that mirror.

From the moment you enter school, you’re fed the same narrative:

- Find your passion.

- Stick to one thing.

- Turn it into a career.

- Be obsessed.

This sounds noble, but there’s a hidden assumption baked in. That everyone feels interest the same way.

They don’t.

Some people get obsessed with a single path and never look up. Others only come alive around people. Some feel most “interested” when they’re fixing things quietly in the background.

Others don’t care about topics as much as they care about problems to solve.

When your wiring doesn’t match the template, you internalise it as failure. You gaslight yourself by saying:

“I’m lazy.”

“I’m scattered.”

“I’m just boring.”

“Everyone else seems to know what they like. I don’t.”

But in reality, a big chunk of that mismatch can be explained by temperament. This is what the DISC model (popularised in the book Surrounded by Idiots) calls your “colour.” personality.

Let me show you...

In DISC, people tend to lean toward one or two dominant styles, often described as “colours”:

🔴 Red (Dominance) – Direct, driven, likes challenge and control.

🟡 Yellow (Influence) – Social, expressive, likes ideas and people.

🟢 Green (Steadiness) – Calm, supportive, likes stability and harmony.

🔵 Blue (Conscientiousness) – Analytical, precise, likes systems and detail.

You have a mix of all four, but usually one or two lead.

The important part for this article isn’t the labels. It’s that:

Each colour experiences interest and meaning differently. Each colour is attracted to different kinds of stimulation, risk, and reward. Each colour feels “alive” in different situations.

So if you’re judging yourself by another colour’s standards, you’ll think you're not passionate about anything—when in reality, you’re living against your own grain.

The modern world is not neutral.

School rewards sitting still, following instructions, and being average at everything. Social media rewards loud, fast, expressive, “main character” behaviour. Hustle culture worships the loudest Reds and most charismatic Yellows.

If you’re not built like that, you get quietly gaslit.

As a Red, you’re punished for challenging authority, so you learn to turn your drive inward and call it “anger” or “boredom.”

As a Yellow, you’re shamed for having 10 interests instead of one, so you call it “shiny object syndrome” instead of idea‑driven curiosity.

As a Green, you’re told your love of stability and small, simple pleasures is laziness, so you call it “no passion.”

As a Blue, you’re drowned in chaotic noise and speed, so you call your withdrawal “apathy” instead of a hunger for depth.

The system is colour‑blind in the worst way: it pretends everyone should find meaning in the same shape.

When your natural pattern doesn’t fit that shape, you don’t attack the system. You attack yourself.

“I must just not be an interesting person.”

“I guess I don’t really like anything.”

“I wish I was as passionate as them.”

You aren’t empty. You’re just mismatched.

Now, before we dive deeper into the attributes of the colours, I want to reveal something you haven't heard before...

Most people don’t “find their passion.” They get honest about the kind of stimulation their nervous system actually responds to.

Some brains light up at risk and responsibility. Some brains light up at connection and play. Some brains light up at safety and routine. Some brains light up at complexity and precision.

We call all of these “interest,” and they feel completely different internally.

If you’re a Green expecting Red‑style obsession, you’ll think you’re dead inside.

If you’re a Blue expecting Yellow‑style excitement, you’ll think you’re broken.

If you’re a Red forced into Blue‑style perfectionism, you’ll think you’re lazy.

If you’re a Yellow forced into Green‑style stability, you’ll think you’re inconsistent.

I have good news for you... You’re not.

So let’s break this down.

I’m going to walk you through each colour and show you:

Once you see your pattern clearly, “finding your passion” stops being this mystical, external thing you have to chase—and becomes something you recognise in how you’ve always been.

We'll start with Reds.

Reds are wired for challenge, impact, and control. They don’t get genuinely interested in hobbies that don’t move a needle somewhere. They come alive when there’s:

🔴 A real problem to solve

🔴 A visible result

🔴 A sense of risk or responsibility

The school version of life (sit down, be quiet, follow the worksheet) kills this. You’re told to stop arguing, stop questioning, stop trying to bend reality to your will.

So what happens?

You start to associate your natural drive with “anger” or “restlessness.” You’re told you’re “too intense,” “too much,” “too impulsive. You learn that life is a series of tasks someone else hands you.

Of course nothing feels interesting. You were never meant to get excited about busywork.

For Reds, “interest” often looks like:

🔴Wanting to fix broken systems at work instead of doing your job description.

🔴Getting obsessed with a project only when you’re the one in charge.

🔴Feeling more alive in crisis than in comfort.

If that’s you, your passion lies in autonomy and stakes.

You find meaning by:

🔴 Starting and leading projects.

🔴 Taking ownership.

🔴 Choosing environments where you’re judged by outcomes, not obedience.

The fix is put yourself in situations where your decisions actually matter.

Yellows are wired for people, ideas, and stimulation. They experience interest as a burst: an exciting idea, a new person, a fresh environment. They’re multi‑passionate by default.

The problem? The world worships consistency and linear paths. So when you:

Get obsessed with a topic for 3 weeks, then drop it. Bounce between friend groups or platforms. Love brainstorming but hate rigid execution you get labelled as flaky, unserious, “shiny object syndrome.”

Eventually you agree with the accusation: “Maybe I don’t actually care about anything. Maybe I just like the idea of things.”

Ah, but there is nuance my little sunflower... Yellow interest is exploratory, not possessive.

You’re meant to:

🟡Sample widely.

🟡Connect dots.

🟡Keep things light enough to move.

For Yellows, “interest” often looks like:

🟡Being fascinated by a conversation more than by the underlying subject.

🟡Caring about how something is communicated, not just what.

🟡Getting energy from starting, sharing, and riffing, then losing energy when it becomes repetitive.

You couldn't find your passion because you lack permission to be a connector instead of a specialist.

You find meaning by:

🟡Building communities or audiences around broad themes.

🟡Turning your curiosity into expression: posts, videos, conversations, storytelling.

🟡Accepting that your role might be to spark and share more than to grind in one narrow lane for 30 years.

The fix isn’t “pick one niche and force yourself to love it.” It’s: design a life where variety is a feature, not a bug.

Greens are wired for stability, support, and harmony. They’re not driven by extremes. They don’t need everything to be “epic” to care. They like:

🟢Predictable routines

🟢Familiar people

🟢Quiet, slow progress

Self‑help culture absolutely steamrolls this temperament.

You’re told:

“Go all in.”

“Monk mode.”

“If you’re not obsessed, you don’t want it enough.”

So your natural preference for steadiness gets misdiagnosed as: Laziness. Lack of ambition. And being boring.

Greens often like things that don’t look impressive on social media:

🟢Gardening

🟢Cooking

🟢Behind‑the‑scenes roles

🟢Long‑term loyalty to a place, craft, or group

But because those aren’t framed as “passion” in the loud online world, you devalue them.

For Greens, “interest” looks like:

🟢Feeling deeply attached to people and environments rather than ideas and projects.

🟢Being interested in supporting others’ missions more than having your own “main character” story.

🟢Enjoying repetition when it builds comfort or mastery.

Your passion lies in narratives that respect a calm lifestyle.

You find meaning by:

🟢Leaning into roles that make things run smoothly: operations, care, maintenance, teaching, long‑term service.

🟢Owning the fact that you like slow, sustainable growth more than chaos and hype.

🟢Measuring your life by depth of relationships, not by how “exciting” your interests look from the outside.

The fix isn’t to be more intense. It’s to stop apologising for wanting a small, stable, meaningful life.

Blues are wired for depth, precision, and systems. They get interested when they can:

🔵Understand how something works at a deep level

🔵See the whole system

🔵Refine, correct, or optimise

Modern life, and especially modern content, is hostile to this.

Everything is fast. Everything is simplified. Everything is “good enough” if it gets clicks.

If you’re Blue, you’re constantly fed half‑baked ideas, bad arguments, sloppy thinking. You feel this as a kind of low‑level disgust and disengagement.

So you withdraw. You lurk. You scroll, but almost nothing feels worth committing to.

You start saying things like:

🔵“Nothing really interests me.”

🔵“All of this feels dumb.”

🔵“I don’t know what I like.”

But the truth is: you don’t want more things—you want things done properly.

For Blues, “interest” looks like:

🔵Obsessing over niche details other people gloss over.

🔵 Enjoying building systems, frameworks, or libraries more than being “seen.”

🔵Preferring to perfect something in private rather than share something rough in public.

Your passions are found in environments that reward DEPTH over speed.

You find meaning by:

🔵Choosing domains where accuracy and structure matter: coding, analysis, design, research, operations.

🔵Giving yourself permission to go deep on “boring” topics.

🔵Treating your urge to refine as a gift, not a social handicap.

The fix isn’t “force yourself to enjoy chaotic environments.” It’s: step into lanes where your standards are an asset, not a burden.

At this point, a few things should be clear:

Here’s a simple way to start untangling this:

1. Find your dominant colour (or top two).

Ask yourself:

2. Write down 3 times in your life you actually felt alive. When time felt like it "disappeared".

3. Notice the pattern of how you were engaged.

That pattern is your real “interest style.” Which will lead you to where your passion lies.

From there, the better question isn’t:

“What should my passion be?” It’s:

“Given the way I’m wired, what environments, problems, and roles naturally keep me curious?”

You don’t need to manufacture a passion from scratch.

You need to stop gaslighting the way your nervous system is already trying to show you what it cares about.

Meaning has always been a pattern, not a topic.

Some people are interested in winning. Some are interested in connecting. Some are interested in caring. Some are interested in understanding.

All of those are valid ways to be alive.

So the question is no longer: “What should I be interested in?”

The real question is:

“What kind of problems, people, and environments naturally wake my nervous system up—and how can I give myself more of that without apologising for it?”

You don’t need to find a passion dropped from the sky. You need to stop treating your genuine, repeatable fascinations as accidents. Once you see your colour clearly, you stop chasing someone else’s version of a meaningful life.

You realise two things:

This is how you "find" your passion.